i have to file for bankruptcy because he stole thousands of dollars from me to buy drugs & video games. i had to take our daughter & move in with my mom because of this & his verbal abuse. he doesn’t take care of her, and never has (times when he was watching her she’s gotten into harmful things & never got diaper changes). he has a temper. he’s racist, sexist, selfish, etc. he of course can talk a good talk but it’s all lies. he’s unemployed & has no desire to get a job or training.
he’s still living in my house (he was never on the mortgage & never helped pay the bills) and he’s trashing it. i’d like to sell it, but with all the damage i don’t think i can (the dishwasher is smashed to bits, along with most cabinets & walls have holes in them). he smokes in the house, even if our daughter is there. he has a son older than our daughter & his parental rights to him were terminated.
should i cut him loose? i plan on divorcing him. should i also evict him & refuse to let him see our daughter until we get it figured out in court?
should i feel bad??
i meant not see her until the courts figure it out.
he doesn’t do anything FOR her either!
he’s NEVER come to see her in the 2 months we’ve been living apart.
and actually, he will smoke & do drugs in front of her if i’m not around. & i’m not wanting to be around him as he’s verbally abusive. (that doesn’t do her any good either)
yeah yeah, i know. I"M STUPID FOR EVEN GETTING WITH THE GUY. he’s a DAMN good liar & manipulator & i’m a pushover & a doormat.
thing is, this is my situation, and i’m doing what i can with what i got at the moment. can’t change the past or stupid mistakes but we can learn from them.
thanks Siggy
i think one of the worst things about this is that i just feel completely STUPID for believing what he told me aobut everything, from day one. "his ex & the courts screwed him over to terminate his parental rights" and falling for what i can only assume was his act with his son during supervised visits (since he isn’t nearly that great with our daughter, EVER). i believed he was going into jobcorps in a couple weeks, only to find a letter a few days ago that he stopped his application from even being sent. i believed he was sorry & loved us & had stopped doing drugs & stealing from me–until tonight when taking our toddler to visit him i found his stash (well, actually our DAUGHTER found it to my horror!) and then i checked & noticed 0 was missing from my purse; and when confronted he practically laughed & said something to the effect of "yeah, so? you keep coming over here"
i just feel so stupid!!! and like i’ve totally failed my daughter by conceiving her w/HIM
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