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I read… a lot, but I’m not much of a teen romance junkie. Too Sappy for my style. ’specially ones in girls’ POV. And I was delveloping on an earlier idea, which I tweaked a bit, yet I began the plot was weak, and didn’t flow well, and most the scenes had and awkward sense and just sounded very immature.
Yet 4 of the characters I created were just so well-rounded, and I had drawn close to them. I couldn’t risk wasting them on a crappy, over dramatic story.
So after reading ‘A Seperate Peace’ (good book, I recommend it), I overlooked my own story, and one of the character’s plot(perhaps, one of the stories greatest salvations). I think the novel just may be better if I had worked the novel around that character’s POV.
So. A bit of a downlow on the chracters.
Austin (looking for potential new name) ~ Handsome, moviestar tan, dapper, lively and brisk, though he doesn’t realize it very much, kind of arrogant. Mom died when he was eight years old, father owns a multi-million dollar buisness that makes like… everything. Captain of Lacrosee team.
Liz~ childhood friend, ex-girlfriend (though many ties of their romance gone sour is almost completely forgotten), close friend, and fellow highschooler to Austin. Copes with learning disabilties, (ADD and Dyslexia). Struggles to keep a 3.0 GPA. Excels in the arts (painting, singing, acting)
Emma~ shy, withdrawn, obessed w/books, and a bit of a germaphob. Twin sister of Sitiles (see below). Amazing Painter, better than Liz. Series of events through out book make her grow as an indivual.
Sitiles (looking for potental new name)~ Red head, feels intimidated by almost everything Sitiles does, on the outside seems like a care-free prankster, very loyal to friends and family, feels underappricated to his parents next to his sister. Learns to apreicate others later on, and have more recognition for human feeling.
Summary:
Austin lives the good life, until his father company goes bankrupt, and his Father commits sucide. His views on life change, and his learns how [insert a nice adjective here] can really be. He might fall in love along the way.
Basically, He falls in love with Emma, who visits him in the hospital after his father dies (I haven’t figured out how he lands himself in there yet), gets him read books.
Then sitiles has that brief. "HOLY SHIT!THAT’S MY SISTER MOMENT!" Though I fear he might be falling to the Ron Weasley side of the spectrum. Giving the fact I already gave him red hair, and that ron-ish biased ness.
Yet I can;t just change his character. I wouldn’t feel right… so yeah…
Opinions? Suggestions? Ideas for first scene and names?
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Posted September 4th, 2011 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: buisness, childhood friend, crappy, downlow, dramatic story, emma, ex girlfriend, fellow, friends and family, gpa, indivual, mom, moviestar, novel, painting, pov, prankster, seperate peace, teen romance, twin sister.
I sold my car last year to someone for 00. He gave me 0 up front and we drew up a contract stating that the rest would be due no later than December 6th, 2010. When the time came, after many missed emails and calls he told me the car was in the shop and that he couldn’t pay it right then. After a great amount of emails and calls that went unanswered, I showed up at his house and asked his mom if he was there. He told me he had to file for bankruptcy and his lawyer told him not to say anything to anyone. He told me the car "had been taken" and told me to talk to his lawyer about it. After trying to leave a message at his office three times, the secretary got fed up and told me that there probably wasn’t anything that they could do for me and that I was named in the papers but they didn’t have the car and they have no idea who has the car. After this, I decided to do a bit of snooping online and have enough evidence to show that he still has the car and is even in fact trying to sell it online. He won’t respond to calls and keeps redirecting me to his lawyer. His lawyer answered the phone today surprisingly and told me that I was named as an unsecured creditor and that my pitfall was in not declaring a lien on the car when I drew up the contract. I asked him
‘If I were to go to his house and ask for the car back, would he have to give it to me?’
‘Bear in mind that he is my client and everything I say will be in his argument, but no, he has a right to the car because you gave him the title after signing the contract.’
I tried to contact a lawyer but he said he’d charge me 0 for a consultation.
I told the kid I’d need the money by the end of December so I knew I was going to be able to afford taking summer classes this year. Now I’m broke and can’t afford summer classes and might even
have to graduate late..this guy is ruining my life.
What should I do?
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Posted July 4th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: bankruptcy, consultation, december 6th, lawyer, mom, money, pitfall, quot, three times, unsecured creditor.
and now i cannot view my online account or receive statements in the mail. well i recently moved and I am 2 months behind but i have the money now and i want to pay but i am worried the money is going to just dissapear and they are going to take my car away! But i have not received any phone calls or statements or even letters saying they were taking it! Oh yeah and when i call I cant get info without talking to someone and they say i can pay by phone or mail! but wont tell me a thing. It’s annoying! Ive paid my payment for a year now. My mom has never paid it and yeah?
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Posted June 19th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: mail, mom, money, phone calls.
I hired a bankruptcy attorney in Aug of 2010. But before accepting their service I had asked them specifically that I had money combined with my mom and would that be a problem. The person who interviewd me told "Oh no problem, we just send an amendment document to declare that this account belongs to your mother and not you." Time paaast. And I finally had an appointment with the attorney in Feb 2011 that it was best to dismiss the case so I could have time to fix my mom’s account and refile or do the ammendment and he would charge me 250/hour( even though the contract said 215). So I agreed to dismiss it for him to refile. I was dismissed in early March. I fixed my mom’s account immediatley and within 2 weeks advised to refile. Upto this date, I have been given the runaround stating "well we’re in the process of tranfering your file". Everything was sent electronically. I have given them everything they have requested from me on time. My life is at a stand still. Can’t do anything financially until I resolve this situation. Can I fire this deadbeat and get my money attorney fees back? If so HOW?
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Posted May 27th, 2011 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: appointment, attorney fees, bankruptcy attorney, deadbeat, immediatley, mom, money, runaround.
I have been married almost 3 years. I have 2 children under 2 yrs old. My husband has a pill problem and is a thief. He has stolen my money so many times I have had to file bankruptcy. I can’t have credit cards, a checking account, or anything. My husband always begs me to come back and I do because I love him. Earlier this year, he stole the last 0 I had and bought pills and wrecked my car. We couldn’t even pay the utilities on our house. (well, I couldn’t pay them, my husband doesn’t have a job.) So he moved in with his dad and I moved in with mine. Recently after we moved in with our dads, I found out I was pregnant. My husband got kicked out of his dads house for stealing and being on pills. He had nowhere to go so I let him stay with me to help me with our newborn daughter. Last week he was on pills again and stole some money from my dad and me so my dad kicked him out. Every time this happens he says he is done with the pills and it won’t happen again. I always take him back and this time I said he cannot stay with my dad and I. We have a house that I am still making payments on but since he doesn’t have a job I can’t pay for the house, utilities, and groceries by myself. Thats why I’m living with my dad so my kids will have water and heat. He is now telling me that he is completely done with pills. His mom is going to put him in therapy and he is going to apply for jobs and possibly go to the army. I do love him and that would be fine but I’m afraid I can’t trust him. My parents are begging me to get a divorce. But even if I do I know I will still see him alot because of the kids and that will be hard for me. When we got married I knew he already had 1 kid which was fine but since we got married he found out he has another and next month he is getting a DNA test for another, which that is really hard for me to deal with. I know he didn’t cheat on me. But if he does get a job, all his money will go to child support for these other kids? He has been put in jail more than once for back child support and is also being questioned for some residential break ins. I am afraid if I leave him I won’t find anyone else and if I did find someone else my husband would make it hell for me. I’m sure it sounds like a no brainer I wish I could turn off my feelings but I really do love this guy too much. I just wanted an outside opinion from someone that doesn’t know us. Thanks in advance
I do not have a drug problem, and when he is on drugs I do keep the kids away from him.
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Posted May 24th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: 3 years, army, bankruptcy, checking account, child support, credit cards, dad, dads, divorce, dna test, groceries, job, jobs, mom, money, newborn daughter, parents, pills, thief, water and heat.
i know most people say use a credit card but my mom cant get one cause she filed for bankruptcy before so how else can you do it?
ive heard debit cards work? how would that work?
anything else?
[and im 15 so i cant really do anything of that sort on my own.]
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Posted February 16th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: bankruptcy, credit card, debit cards, mom.
I don’t know if it’s going to be chapter 7 or 13. I’m really depressed over this situation, had perfect credit my whole life until a few months ago when my mortgage lender kicked me out of the modification for no justifiable reason and put me straight into foreclosure
I have to take my income info etc. I’m confused because I wanted to initially sue my lender for not doing my loan and a BK disqualifies getting a modification, but on the other hand it stops them from auctioning the house. Anyway, if you have any advice or questions to ask please let me know.
Also, my mom added me on the title of her home a few years ago when she asked me to refinance her loan under my name since I had excellent credit. It’s in reality her home, just technically I’m on it until one day her credit is good enough to refinance back to her name and then she’ll drop me off of the title. Will this look like I have assets and affect the BK?
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Posted February 6th, 2011 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: assets, bk, chapter 7, foreclosure, income info, justifiable reason, mom, mortgage lender, whole life.
a few months ago i was jobless and homeless and ended up in the hospital in a state that i was not a resident of and the hospital sent me to like a psych ward/rehab place and that place wouldnt release me because they had nowhere to release me to until they got a hold of my parents and my parents came and got me and i got two bills from the hospital and one bill from the other place and i have a job but i dont get many hours and there really arent many options for jobs where i live i made payment arrangements with the hospital for two bills and i can just barely make the payments each month and the other place didnt send a bill until just recently and its over ,000 and they wont give me a payment arrangement that works for me they want almost ,300 a month for 4 months which i cant do i make less then 0 a month right now since that payment arrangement doesnt work they want me to get a loan from a bank but i dont have a credit history and no one would cosign and i dont make enough money to afford another bill each month my mom says that i should just file for bankruptcy my parents dont have the money to loan me and refuse to cosign anything for me or really help me in any way i dont want to have to file for bankruptcy because i dont want bad credit to start my credit history and i was hoping to go to college in the next few years (which would require loans) im only 19 and i have a daughter whos 10 months (she lives with her dad – she was not with me when i was homeless and all of that) and i want to be able to set the best example for her as i can and ive already messed up so is bankruptcy the best option or does any one have any ideas on what i should do?
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Posted February 5th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: 10 months, 4 months, bad credit, bankruptcy, credit history, dad, enough money, job, jobs, loans, mom, parents, payment arrangement, payment arrangements, psych ward.
I have had a troubled life, starting with my awkward teen years, being a teen mother then losing custody of my beautiful daughter which led to a 10 year drug addiction. I have been married twice and I am in the midst of filing bankruptcy for a second time. During this time I have tried to end my life out of despair. I am in my 30’s now and I have successfully got myself off of drugs on my own, without professional help. I have gone back to school and next Friday I will graduate from a technical school. I cannot find work in my field and I am increasingly getting depressed with each day. I think about how I have nothing. I live in my boyfriends house and I frequently get reminded that this is HIS house, which I already know. It just hurts. I feel like I belong nowhere at all. My daughter is almost 16 and she wanted to move in with me from where she lives many states away. That fell through and I cant stop thinking about how I have missed out on everything in her life. I am penniless and I can’t even buy my own shampoo. I am sick of people having to help me financially. I feel so alone. I don’t know why I bothered to make my life better. I should just use drugs again because at least I didn’t have to feel the pain when I was high. I need a break and I never can get one. I hate life and I am starting to think its better to be dead. I have nothing and lost everything. I will never have another child so I never will know what it is like to be a mom. I have missed out on everything and I think I want to die now.
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Posted February 3rd, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: beautiful daughter, boyfriends, despair, drug addiction, drugs, filing bankruptcy, midst, mom, next friday, second time, shampoo, technical school, teen mother, teen years, troubled life.
My in-laws purchased a home and got a loan under my wife’s name prior to us getting married. They used my wife’s name because they weren’t able to get a loan themselves. They make all the payments on the home. My wife and I don’t live there nor do we have any intention of living there as it’s in a bad location. I had no idea about it until after we were already married.
The in-laws are close to losing their business and can barely pay their bills. A bankruptcy seems imminent and i’m pretty sure the house which is mortgaged under my wife’s name will be foreclosed. Is there anything I can do to protect my wife and myself against this? If it makes a difference they just transferred the Deed to my mom in-law, but the loan isn’t. The home is worth 0k and they still owe 0k since they’ve been making interest only payments.
I worked really hard to get my credit score over 800. I want my own house!!! I couldn’t even qualify for any of the first time home buyer programs because of what my in-laws did under my wife’s name.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. My brother suggested divorcing my wife (just on paper) so I can at least avoid ruining my credit.
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Posted January 18th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: bankruptcy, brother, credit score, first time home, first time home buyer, first time home buyer programs, home buyer programs, intention, mom, time home buyer.
I am wondering what are counted as "assets". I dont know what would be "sold" to pay off the debts. I have a computer and other general electronics like a stereo and TV, all of which are paid off. And a car that was a gift from my mom, and my name is on the title. What exactly do they count as assets?
As far as the car, it is an 89 honda accord, does that make a difference?
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Posted January 13th, 2011 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: assets, debts, general electronics, honda, honda accord, mom.
i have to file for bankruptcy because he stole thousands of dollars from me to buy drugs & video games. i had to take our daughter & move in with my mom because of this & his verbal abuse. he doesn’t take care of her, and never has (times when he was watching her she’s gotten into harmful things & never got diaper changes). he has a temper. he’s racist, sexist, selfish, etc. he of course can talk a good talk but it’s all lies. he’s unemployed & has no desire to get a job or training.
he’s still living in my house (he was never on the mortgage & never helped pay the bills) and he’s trashing it. i’d like to sell it, but with all the damage i don’t think i can (the dishwasher is smashed to bits, along with most cabinets & walls have holes in them). he smokes in the house, even if our daughter is there. he has a son older than our daughter & his parental rights to him were terminated.
should i cut him loose? i plan on divorcing him. should i also evict him & refuse to let him see our daughter until we get it figured out in court?
should i feel bad??
i meant not see her until the courts figure it out.
he doesn’t do anything FOR her either!
he’s NEVER come to see her in the 2 months we’ve been living apart.
and actually, he will smoke & do drugs in front of her if i’m not around. & i’m not wanting to be around him as he’s verbally abusive. (that doesn’t do her any good either)
yeah yeah, i know. I"M STUPID FOR EVEN GETTING WITH THE GUY. he’s a DAMN good liar & manipulator & i’m a pushover & a doormat.
thing is, this is my situation, and i’m doing what i can with what i got at the moment. can’t change the past or stupid mistakes but we can learn from them.
thanks Siggy
i think one of the worst things about this is that i just feel completely STUPID for believing what he told me aobut everything, from day one. "his ex & the courts screwed him over to terminate his parental rights" and falling for what i can only assume was his act with his son during supervised visits (since he isn’t nearly that great with our daughter, EVER). i believed he was going into jobcorps in a couple weeks, only to find a letter a few days ago that he stopped his application from even being sent. i believed he was sorry & loved us & had stopped doing drugs & stealing from me–until tonight when taking our toddler to visit him i found his stash (well, actually our DAUGHTER found it to my horror!) and then i checked & noticed 0 was missing from my purse; and when confronted he practically laughed & said something to the effect of "yeah, so? you keep coming over here"
i just feel so stupid!!! and like i’ve totally failed my daughter by conceiving her w/HIM
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Posted January 13th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: amp, bankruptcy, cabinets, desire, diaper changes, dishwasher, drugs, good liar, holes, job, manipulator, mom, mortgage, parental rights, pushover, stupid mistakes, temper, thousands of dollars, verbal abuse, video games.
i need help,ive been married for 3 1/2 years we have a 4 year old, my husband is a good father.but he cant hold a job, shes been out of work for 5 months and has not applied for a single job, he says hes waitng to go back to his job in spring (construction) where he works part timeish whenever he wants because hes friends with the owner, i kept pleading with him to find a real job,but he wont and it causes a big argument every time. ive known him for 6 years and hes never been able to hold a job (we met when i was 17), im scared because weve been forced to file bankruptcy and have no money for food and cant pay our bills, his mom brings food over. i dont want to lose my house and things keep getting worse i hold a good job buts it not enough, i cant live like this any more, what can i do he wont listen to me!
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Posted January 7th, 2011 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: 5 months, 6 years, bankruptcy, good job, mom, money, waitng.
3 years ago my mom co signed for me when i bought a car. i have a less than 2 years left to pay on it and i am happy with my payments and interest rate. i have paid for my car on my own and havent ever been late with a payment. i know nothing about refiniancing or anything and im not sure what i should do. i just know that i need to get her name off my lease so that it doesnt show up on my credit when my parents go to file banckruptcy. please help!
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Posted December 24th, 2010 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: 3 years, interest rate, mom, parents.
PLEASE someone w/sincere advice respond. Let me try to paint the picture: I got involved in too much debt around 18 yrs old. I thought I was helping by using my new "good" credit to co-sign loans etc, couldn’t keep up. filed ch 7 bnkrptcy @ 24, began to rebuild credt, got involved w/ a broker that said I could purchase a house A YEAR after filing. The #s differed @ closing from what we originally went over. I had already given my landlord notice, taken my mom out of a nursing home, promised my retired granddad a room, and adopted a dog from the shelter – I signed on the line. Shortly after I was laid off after 5 yrs w/ same company. tried to fix up to sell but found out home was worth less than i paid, took refi to repair & contractor split b4 work complete, tenant bailed on me w/out notice. WHEN IT RAINS IT POURS. I was STUPID i know, but what can i do now? owe so much, on unemplyment, renting, starting new job in 2 wks. afraid of what lawsuits will follow and wages taken… thanx!
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Posted December 21st, 2010 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: amp, ch 7, granddad, landlord, lawsuits, loans, mom, new job, nursing home, wages, wks.
I was served yesterday legal papers that I’m being sued for less than ,000.00 by my creditor, first I’m unemployed, I looked up online and found a lawyer that charges 50 for filing bankruptcy, I need to know the best option and plus I don’t have any money! they only thing I own is my car which is been paid off, I know it sounds like a radical question but how are they thinking of getting paid by me when I don’t have any assets? are they trying to take away my only property which is my car? and plus I can borrow money from my mom( I’ve been living with her)(her salary is approx: ,000 annually)(since I’ve looked over the fact that they see if you’re living with someone they might take them responsible as well!)(so she can’t be because we’re already below the minimum salary rate) anyways my radical question is should I even get bother by it? I mean they can’t get anything off of me! I’m flat BROKE! my bank account is even overdrawn by thousands! and since if you’re answer is yes<< (you are being sued so start the PANIC ALARM) which is best? and do attorneys from nonprofit organizations do the same work as an attorney who gets paid some 00 ? (I mean if it’s him charging me because he will go to court and file my papers and stuff..)(hearing meeting is %100 me<< so I’m wondering to go cheap with it to prove to the court that I AM BROKE for real! or borrow money and pay the lawyer! which is best?
Thanks:)
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Posted December 1st, 2010 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: assets, attorneys, creditor, filing bankruptcy, lawyer, lt, minimum salary, mom, money, nonprofit organizations, panic alarm, salary rate.
I found my first mom a few years ago, and I’m finally ready to mail the letter but I am curious if I should send it for the following reasons.
1. She gave up 2 more girls after me
2. One of the 2 children she kept died in an accident, I’m the same age as that kid when they died.
3. The other child is severely disabled.
4. She married the father of the youngest.They had to file bankruptcy for both home and business.
5. They filed bankruptcy on my birthday.
I am a little concerned that my reappearance will be more harmful than helpful to her family right now.
I don’t think she could be too concerned by my adoption, as she did it two more times within the next 5 years.
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Posted October 19th, 2010 in When To File Bankruptcy. Tagged: adoption, bankruptcy, girls, mom.
If you’re representing someone who has become bankrupt, they have no money!! So how do bankruptcy lawyers get paid?? I dated a guy whose dad was a bankruptcy lawyer and he had money out the ass!!! I never saw him to ask b/c he was always working and I didn’t feel comfortable asking the guy or his mom. If your client has no money, how can they pay you??
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Posted September 26th, 2010 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: bankruptcy lawyer, bankruptcy lawyers, dad, mom, money.
he was always so controlling growing up. i couldnt drive like my friends could he never let my mom drive either. he always had to drive her out of town. i remember going to the store and i would be with him when he would see a stranger I felt like i would be kicked aside and his performances would began. he would make them feel like he is the best guy in the world. he would always had this thing for helping strangers over his family. we were always brushed aside if a stranger needed help. i just always thought this was weird growing up. i left got married. not 13 years later….i havent lived near him in those years and decided to move down the street from him. he is a contactor and he said he would do anything i wanted to my house and help me. so i paid top dollar for it and i thought my husband ,me and him would work on the house. he does some drywall work and then rips out the bathroom and rips stuff out upstairs and rips the stairs off says he is going to build me the best stairs . so my husband and i are working with him try to learn and do what we can. i was paying him what i could and then he found out i paid the wood layer to lay wood on the floors and he got really pissed and started telling my mom that we are just USING him. He said he is never going back down there and helping me. so my husband and i are now stuck with this house that he just decided to rip stuff out of and say how good he is at fixing it. he knows we dont have any money to hire contractors and we are very limited on knowledge about how to fix it. he would say you cant fix it because you dont have to money to hire contractors. and stuff like that. so my husband and i have been for the past 6 months try to learn and fix. in the meantime during this remodeling period he promised me i would be in the house christmas and i told him we cant do this together longer that that because i have another mortgage and i have to get my house ready to sell. he said i would be in the house last christmas. no he just walks in the house and said if you dont pay me for working 500 a week i would put a lien on your house or you can finish it yourself. so my husband and i just decided to finish it ourselves. he is an alchoholic gets drunk every night. the bad news is that i have been staying with him and my mom until the remodeling is done. he got mad at me last week and locked me and my son out of the house after i went to the grocery store and couldnt get my other child out of the house. my daughter let me in . he changed the locks and my key wouldnt work. he is very jealous because he knows i have about 100,000 equity in my other house and i was asking him to do this one little job that i could find anyone else to do and he thought i was talking about the house i have all the equity in and said he is absolutely not going to do any work on that house and me turn around and sell out and make money on. i had to sell all my stocks have been through my savings just to not lose anything. the whole house was ripped out and i couldnt get my other house sold that had the equity in until i got the house ready to store my stuff in because i couldnt afford storage and had nowhere to put my stuff. he shows no concience. how could you lock your grandchild out of the house? i told him that i am going to lose my house and have to file bankruptcy because he bailed on me and ripped my house out and he could care less. he never showed love to me growing up and doesnt now either. its very eery. i tell my kids i love them all the time. it seems he wants to win. my husbands family has really been helping us with out house trying to get it sold and he gets really pissy not happy for us that they are helping. i asked him if he could just please bring his triler over to the house after work instead of the morning so i could move some furniture and there will be 5 other people here also. he said oh so you are trying to con me into moving furnture. i litterly have to have another person around me when he does stuff for me because he puts on this great show and does this spectacular job when a stranger is around. if it is just me and him he will be throwing my furniture around. i feel like he wants to win . he wants me to fail. this is about him not helping and then us failing and losing one of the houses. he told me when he said he is not working any more on my house that HE has the power to get me and the kids in out house . I have wondered what i did i was a model child growing up and never asked him for anything before this house thing which was a huge mistake. and then i started reading about being a sociopath and he fits the criteria but i am not a psychologist
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Posted September 25th, 2010 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: 13 years, christmas, contactor, drywall work, last christmas, mom, money, mortgage, stairs, stranger, top dollar, upstairs.
My life wasn’t so peachy when I was young. My family went from the Leave it Beavers to Tragedy real quick. But to start with In my early childhood; I had a great family life.
Because of an accident, my father lost control his mind we went bankrupt during his many visits in and out of the state hospital.
He had constant hallucinations and an altered state of reality. He did many things "unaware" that shamed himself, and all his family. The doctors tried very hard to help regain control of reality but ultimately he ended up as a permanent mental disability case.
As a kid in school some of the embarrassing things my father did made me a constant target of bully’s. I took no pride in fighting but had to almost everyday just to make the 2 mile walk I made home everyday after school. Just punk kids and their lack of knowledge, trying to make a name for themself. It seemed like the more I beat up defending my self, the more I had to fight. To this day, I never have lost a fight. But I never started any either. So anyways..
My mother lost hope in my dad and was not the better woman. She left him because she said it was just too much to deal with. The varies step-dads that were in and out of her life gave me EVERY reason to HATE someone.
This HATE could have consumed me but my Lord had given me his strength. Strength above the Hate. Strength in Love
Eventually my mom found a man with some stability and money, but by then I was burned out by the previous bad choices.
So, after reaching an age where I could choose to take care of my father….15….I left my mom and
became my fathers father.
He only collected 16k a year from social security so we were very poor. We lived in a very small trailer and I remember how difficult it was to be around kids with "Normal" lives. Some of the parents mis-judged me. And even many of my friends underestimated personality and God given abilities.
These, not being known at that time, by terminology were "Gifts of the Spirit" But none the less God was teaching me even while I was unaware. His presence was always with me.
It might seems that all these troubles could have pulled me away from our LOVING HOLY FATHER, but instead it brought me closer to him. In my trails, he taught me about Love..patience…and service…..and respect. These trails affirmed for me that when you need God the MOST… You don’t have to look very hard, because if you believe what He did for you on the Cross….then he is always inside you. You do not have to rely on your own strength. His is within you. Since my childhood, my living testimony has be used to bring several people to the Lord. Can you think on anything else this story can teach others.
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Posted September 11th, 2010 in Bankruptcy Q and A. Tagged: bully, choices, dad, doctors, early childhood, god, hallucinations, lack of knowledge, many things, mental disability, mom, parents, personality, pride, punk kids, social security, step dads, target, themself, tragedy.