When my ex and I split up and child support was set up, I made a budget that fit the income. After a few years, my ex quit his job to get out of child support. After finding where he was working and turning it in, he would quit again to move to another job. I used my credit cards to fill in the missing money thinking i would pay it off when he started to pay again. Well that didn’t happen. Now I am filing bankruptcy after cutting everything we used to do out. I will be able to pay the bills with my own income when this is through. My daughter sees that I am stressed and hears the collections calls. Do I tell her the whole truth? I don’t want to seem like a complete failure in her eyes like i can’t handle money and she lost everything she used to do because of my incompetence. We wouldn’t be this bad off if he didn’t run from his responsibilities. But I don’t want to make her hate her dad.
She is 13 years old. Her Dad rarely sees her because it is now his turn to enjoy life since he started to have kids at 20(he is 42 now- and that is a quote from him) He has a 21 year old son from a first marriage living with him who he makes pay all the bills in their house. That son is going to move in with me next month because he has been wanting to go to college but hasnt been able to since all his money goes toward the household expenses(he works 60 hours a week at a little more than minimum wage and he is not my biological child)
This is for the people who asked how much he was in her life and how old she was.

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