I work 40 hrs a week as support for a software company. I work remotely from home. I have been freelancing at night when everyone is asleep and on weekends – this is my second job, my attempt to pay off medical bills, and to move forward on quitting my current job I hate so much. Last week I told my husband I have a big job and I have a 2 week deadline. This job will pay for my son’s Hockey Season which is 0. I told him this several times before taking the job and he told me he was okay with it. One night I decided to work on the project right after dinner and as soon as I went upstairs he wanted to know what I was doing and demanded that I take his laptop and work downstairs. I was a bit put off and did it. Then he went to give my youngest son a bath and demanded that I stop what I was doing to watch my older son do his homework… First of all, my husband never gives my youngest son a bath on his own – I usually do it and rarely tends to my son’s homework. He started yelling at me saying that I need to spend more time with the family.. What??? I’m home all the time with the family.. He’s not!

Keep in mind that he works 50 – 60 hours weeks and sometimes more. When he does work more than usual, I never give him a hard time. I take care of everything at home.

This one time when I asked for his support on my big project – he failed me. I decided to quit this project because of my husband being impossible. I was so angry at him, I could not talk to him. The next day I woke up angry, he was telling me what to do and how to do it… He is usually like this and I just ignore it. I was so pissed, I was super sensitive to every word that was coming out of his mouth. I felt like I was in shackles and I have no rights as a human being. I know this is so exaggerated on my part.. That is my feeling after getting no support from him.

What brought me to the melt down is this. I have a paypal business account and credit card for my business needs. my husband knows this which is a big mistake telling him. That account allows me to send invoices to people so that they can pay me for services. I have been taking the profits and paying for things we need and paying for medical bills. I have gotten about 00 from freelance work so far. Well, my husband keeps on telling me we need to pay for hockey stuff and now My dog’s grooming and vet bills.. This is where I get frustrated.. I have to work to pay for this stuff. I don’t want to incur more debt. He also wants me to file for bankruptcy.. I don’t. That is the easy way out and I feel I can fix this.. He doesn’t agree with me and continues to friggin buy things like he has endless amounts of cash.

I really think he takes advantage of me. Everything we have bought, he had convinced me to put it on my credit card and promised he will pay it back. Every time I go to him on paying back my card, he comes up with excuses and yet he is able to buy shoes, clothes, gadgets, toys for kids, – lunches, etc… Do you see why I’m mad?

And just a couple of days ago I flipped on him because he told me he just bought some Vail Resort stock… I was pissed because when I was trading stocks a year ago and making a profit, he got involved and said this will be a good hobby for the both of us. I immediately disagreed and told him that I want to do this on my own. He has stocks and a retirement fund. I have nothing and would like to try and build a retirement fund and portfolio. He was offended and got mad at me. I gave in and decided to work with him. He told me to buy a stock that I did not agree with and insisted that if I do not buy this stock it would be a big mistake. Well I didn’t want to and we fought over it. I didn’t want to fight with him and bought the stupid stock. A week later it fell 10% and I pulled out. He wanted me to keep it and called it a long term stock… He was so wrong. The little money I did have went to paying for penrose hospital – they had a court order for us to pay for a bill. So I pulled all the money and gave it to them. See why I am mad… Why do I put up with this?

He is another funny thing he did. For a while he was recording Dave Ramsey show. This show has people calling in about their financial problems and he give advice. Well I did watch this show and loved it because if reinforce what I know is true and when I had asked him to watch it with me – he agreed but he thought it was comical and didn’t take the show seriously and stopped recording the show… I am crazy.
He pays for health insurance, car insurance, utility bills, and cable. I pay for mortgage, car, credit cards, daycare, and gas/groceries.

I don’t have anything left when these bills are paid.
Yes, I have talked to him about this and we are trying to work things out. I don’t give up that easily. Divorce is not in my radar. I feel so frustrated and wish I could figure this out. My husband tells me all the time that I need to learn how to relax.. He’s right there. And we balance each other because I am all about being responsible and he likes to have fun.. Well I love to have fun too. I was adventurous before kids and marraige. Now i’m home working all the time. Try to pay the bills.

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I stopped by a PC Club store a few weeks ago and dropped off my laptop for repair. They told me they shipped it to their repair location in L.A. and it would take several days to get it back. They finally repaired it, but they had to send it back because they broke a panel during shipping, and said it would take a few more days to get it back again.

After I hadn’t heard from them again, I called yesterday and today to see what was going on and there was no answer. I’ve looked online to see if I can contact them, but I can’t find a way. I just read that they closed their doors yesterday and they filed for bankruptcy. Now I’m out 0 and a laptop. I don’t know where they shipped it for repair. Does any one know how I can get my laptop back? What can I do? Thank you so much!
Thanks for your answers. I’m gonna try your advice. I haven’t gotten it back yet. I’ve called the numbers but I just get the answering machine too. I’ll let you know if I find anything out. Good luck to you too! And please let me know if you find a way to get yours back!! Thanks again.

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Like most Americans, I’m in debt. I’m a student with a part-time job and I’ve sunk into some pretty nasty debts. I have medical bills to take care of, as well as other other stuff. I’ve read a bit about debt consolidation and lots of sources say it’s pretty much a scam (you’re not eliminating the debt, you’re just moving it). I don’t think bankruptcy is a good idea.

What can a college student (undergrad) do to eliminate 00+ debt? Are there loan programs that just give you money and a few years before you have to start repaying it? Are there other alternatives?
I’ve decreased personal expenses to pretty much nonexistant. I don’t really buy clothes and food and such and all of my expenses are either medical bills, textbooks, or a monthly laptop payment.

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I bought a BMW Z4 2 months ago. I have yet to make my first payment on it after a downpayment of 1500. i don’t have good credit(low 600) and i have a few charge-offs and i applied for more than several cash advances just to pay my bills and i don’t even remember i owe who and who and i never answer the calls from them or from collections. I figure sooner or later i will either file for bankruptcy or let it row for 7 years. I do have a second car(my mom’s car) that’s paid for and in her name that i use. coz my mom got her own camry(also paid for).

I am wondering if i should just keep driving that Z4 for a few months without paying till they eventually repo it. (to make my downpayment 00 worthwhile) and when they sold it and ask for the difference, my payday loans and others will be over 90 days and i will include everything i owe and file for bankruptcy.

or should i keep paying for it even though i might eventually give up the car anyway after one year? my credit is already pretty damaged(low 600).. what should i do?

P.S. if i do decide to just don’t pay.. i can use the money for my horse-riding lessons and other fun stuff..and get my laptop back from my pawn shop which i will do eventually anyway.
For all before you start judging me(and i know you guys will) i owned a biz at the age of 21 and I used to the luxury of things i had money for… and never care much for credit. since i had enough cash. after the biz ran to the ground, i have been trying to figure out my next biz venture. (i hate to work for ppl).

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I left my laptop at pcclub for virus removal. When I went there the next day to pick it up, the sign said they went under Chapter 7 bankruptcy. What happens to customer items when this happens. Does anyone know how I can retrieve my laptop back??? Help!

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I really have no family that will help as we were never close. I have thought carefully about suicide but would anyone care? I can’t open an account to get social security why no address. Plus the banks look at you like your scum, maybe I am, they didn’t think that way when I was put 1000’s of dollars in the bank. I also have 1000’s of dollars in credit card debt from 3 yrs ago and should file bankruptcy but can’t do that either no address.I don’t know what to do. I stay clear of homeless help places because I am embarrassed and don’t want there hand outs. I just need to file taxes ( I owe nothing but did cash in an old ins. policy for money) and can’t seem to get help. I went into HR Block and all they did was rub there head. I have found out in this great country if you have NO phone or address you can do nothing. Is there anyone out there that can help or is it better to just end it all. Please help……
I can’t thank everyone that took the time to answer my question. Just knowing that someone out there is thinking of you always helps. Isn’t it odd that family who really could help choose not to because you made or had some one for you make the wrong decisions in life. As for church thats a joke, I give up on them years ago. While driving to church one day I saw a young man digging in the dumpster so I stopped and feed him and also gave him as much food as he could carry. He didn’t want much because the others would steal it. I told my minister we should open the church kitchen one day a month and feed the hungry people. His answer was "someone that doesn’t deserve it might get free food". My answer thats between GOD and them. I just can’t bring myself to ask for help it is embarrassing to know you failed in life. When the money ran out so did my wife. But a BIG thanks to all of you that care…
As for the internet very easy I still have a broken down laptop and wireless so I walk to the nearest in town motel and set by the back door and wahla, internet for free.You can also go to the truck stop and use theres. Maybe that’s stealing I hope not. But why is it the illegals in this country can qualify all the things I can’t? I hate to lie so filling out forms with false statements goes against my teachings.

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I am 23 years old, in college part time and working part time. I am recently divorced and have about ,000 in loans and credit card bills I got stuck with that were all aqquired during the marriage. Since I can only afford minimum payments (and receive no financial aid) I feel like I should look into bankruptcy.
I have two credit cards, so If I file bankruptcy on just my loans (,000) and one credit card, does keeping the one credit card plus an account balance with Dell (for a laptop I financed) help my credit score at all, as opposed to filing on everything I owe?
And everyone says to do it before I get any older if I’m going to do it. And I don’t expect any new bills (I have a dependable car and low rent) anytime soon.
Sometimes I feel like bankruptcy is "cheating" but I had an extra income at the time I signed for the loans, and of course didn’t expect to get divorced. I feel helpless, as the balances barely go down and i’m spending money I need to live, or I’m going to have to quit school.

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