My Father had been in the hospital for about a year dying from lung cancer and was in severe pain. He had told me that in the end he didn’t want to be resuscitated if he passed and had a DNR (Do not resuscitate) on file but when I got a call in the middle of the night stating he had a heart attack I raced to the hospital to find they had put him on a ventilator to keep him alive which I was happy he was but when I asked why they did that when he had a DNR order in place they said he did not so it was up to me, since I had his power of attorney, to honor his wish but it tore me apart and I couldn’t do it right away. So I called the family to let them know they should get to the hospital and explained what I needed to do and they agreed that I needed to honor his wishes but they could not get to the hospital right away so I ended up keeping him on the ventilator for another day until they arrived so I sat by his side without sleeping until the next evening when they arrived and I left the room to ask the nurse to remove the life support. He lasted another two days on his own and I stayed by his side without sleep until he passed away.

It’s been a little over a month now and all I can think of every minute of every day is that I killed my Father! I know it’s what he wanted but that doesn’t make it any easier and it’s affecting my work since instead of actually working I sit and think while just staring at my computer screen, I don’t eat lunch but instead go out to my car and sleep for an hour, my doctor put me on antidepressants (Cymbalta) which gave me some of the worst migraine type pain but on the top of my head.

I just don’t know what do do to get passed this and I think I’m going to lose my job which will cause me to lose everything else that matters to me since I’m teetering on foreclosure and bankruptcy due to this messed up economy already.

Has anyone out there been through something like this and how did you get through it?

Plz help!!!

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Hello.

I am currently 20 years old, and my father is 49 years old. I find him to be extremely repugnant. He is abusive (emotionally, mentally, and physically). Though, I haven’t received any physical abuse from him in years ever since I was 13 when he attempted to abuse me when I was doing my homework and eventually fought back because his logic was incoherent, he is a repetitive user of mental and emotional abuse. (He blamed me for hacking his computer proclaimed me a computer savant, whom I did not hack.) In the last ten years, he has been compulsively borrowing money from several banks eventually leading up to my family’s current financial situation, which is bankruptcy. He blames us for his mistakes, which I presume, is scapegoating. I’ve noticed that he has chronic narcissistic personality disorder. (If you don’t know what chronic narcissistic personality disorder represents, please do research.) He believes he is always right even when dealt with the reality of the situation, always blames his problems on my mother and I, compulsively threatens me that physical abuse is coming my way if I do not apply for jobs (not knowing that I have already and was unable to be accepted into any), he is lazy and sits in front of the computer everyday after work (internet addiction disorder, IAD), he procrastinates on his office work in the morning and blames his habits on us stating that he is unable to sleep at night when he is the first to sleep but wakes up several times throughout the night and goes to the computer to chat with the women he has been using to cheat on my mother with which lead to the debt and bankruptcy. Every time I use logic against him, he threatens me with statements of upcoming physical abuse and mentally stating that he is sick, holds his heart and head saying that he is going to die of an aneurysm or heart attack or stroke. (My grandmother from his side of the family died of an aneurysm or a stroke while sleeping.) I’ve told him that if he continues to walk down this road, this road of threats of physical abuse, I will call the police and press charges and file a restraining order. Oh, by the way, he isn’t paying rent and hasn’t paid rent in almost a decade and a half and my mom is paying for his debts. Technically speaking, he is considered a deadbeat loser at this point.
My question is do you believe I should detach myself from this bastard? Should I have the police take care of this potentially dangerous situation if he continues to threaten us? Should I press charges? Should I file a restraining order?

P.S. I would like to keep my privacy. Only serious answers please.

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I was young, (22yrs old) had 2 jobs and made good money. I decided to trade in my old junk of a car and buy a brand new car. I had no credit history so my then bf helped co-sign for my new car. My interest was sky high but I didn’t care at the beginning because I had no idea what I was doing. I paid a very large amount per month and then after about a year, I lost my main job. A few months after that, I lost my other job. I now was collecting unemployment and went through HELL to make sure that car was paid off every month. I started making late payments and my life was just a mess because not only did I have to pay for that car, I had the insurance, rent, etc. I was no longer able to pay my car and that day came when Mr. repo came knocking on the door. They took my car after 2 years of me working my butt off and they auctioned it off for SO cheap (almost had a heart attack at how much they sold it for!)

This was in 2008 and 2 years later, I’m still struggling financially in more ways than a hundred lol…I have really bad credit, I can’t even open a bank account and I feel like my once so organized and amazing life is now totally off track. I don’t know what to do. These are my questions:

1. If I open a bank account, can my lender seize all my money? Not a savings, a checking account.

2. Being that I did not pay the upside down on the car (,000) should I file for bankruptcy and is it too late to do that after 2 years? And for those who want to suggest that I pay off the 16 grand, I’m not because I’m not going to pay for a car I don’t have anymore and you might say well you’re stuck with it you should have never bought a car you can’t afford I don’t want to hear it because you don’t know my story. I want serious answers, not answers that are going to sound mean and not help.

If there is anything that I’m missing? Please, any advise would be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks in advance

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I was young, (22yrs old) had 2 jobs and made good money. I decided to trade in my old junk of a car and buy a brand new car. I had no credit history so my then bf helped co-sign for my new car. My interest was sky high but I didn’t care at the beginning because I had no idea what I was doing. I paid a very large amount per month and then after about a year, I lost my main job. A few months after that, I lost my other job. I now was collecting unemployment and went through HELL to make sure that car was paid off every month. I started making late payments and my life was just a mess because not only did I have to pay for that car, I had the insurance, rent, etc. I was no longer able to pay my car and that day came when Mr. repo came knocking on the door. They took my car after 2 years of me working my butt off and they auctioned it off for SO cheap (almost had a heart attack at how much they sold it for!)

This was in 2008 and 2 years later, I’m still struggling financially in more ways than a hundred lol…I have really bad credit, I can’t even open a bank account and I feel like my once so organized and amazing life is now totally off track. I don’t know what to do. These are my questions:

1. If I open a bank account, can my lender seize all my money? Not a savings, a checking account.

2. Being that I did not pay the upside down on the car (,000) should I file for bankruptcy and is it too late to do that after 2 years? And for those who want to suggest that I pay off the 16 grand, I’m not because I’m not going to pay for a car I don’t have anymore and you might say well you’re stuck with it you should have never bought a car you can’t afford I don’t want to hear it because you don’t know my story. I want serious answers, not answers that are going to sound mean and not help.

If there is anything that I’m missing? Please, any advise would be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks in advance

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