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Should I stay with a 43 year old, out of work man living with his parents?

admin — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 01:20:44 +0000

Okay, I met a 43 year old divorced father of two and we’ve been sort of seeing each other for the past 3 months. He says he has really fallen for me, so much in fact that he has told me he loves me. The thing is, he moved back in with his parents because of the divorce, but that was over a year ago. He used to have his own business, but the business went bankrupt and he has not worked in awhile (definitely not since I’ve met him). I just am starting to wonder if he even has any motivation to do anything other than trying to hang out with me and talk to me! We hardly see each other because of the living situation and when we do hang out all he talks about is how he misses me, how he likes (and now loves) me so much, etc… I just don’t know if I can be with a man who doesn’t work, lives with his parents and isn’t doing anything about it! He says he’s getting his own place in a couple of weeks, but I am struggling to believe this is true considering he still isn’t working and doesn’t have any savings! I think he is a genuinely good person, but I don’t know if that’s enough. My question is this…is there hope for him? Should I stick it out and see if things change? To me it just seems bad because he has been living this way for so long, it’s like he wants to move, but financially can’t get his stuff together! For being 43, I just expect more I suppose….is this wrong of me? Or, should I hit the road and end this now?? Please, any advice will do!!

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***I am 34 years old (no kids, if that matters) and do have a full time job as well as go to school.
I completely understand Steven’s point and I do give the guy credit for the ambition to try and do something on his own, but in all reality his own business was just himself and a couple of guys he could call on to come help on bigger projects. I’m not trying to downplay it, that’s just the reality. I still admire the ambition, I completely understand the horrible economic situation that’s been going on and I know it is really tough on American’s, whether you have a job or not….I don’t want to come off as not being totally sympathetic to that.

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Can you file bankruptcy on Attorney Fees?

admin — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 00:01:04 +0000

Can you file bankruptcy on Attorney Fees?
If you are going through a divorce and have temporary orders that you have adhered to (you owe your spouse no monies and you owe no child support-all paid in full and current) can you file bankruptcy on Attorney Fees? The amount is 00 to spouse attorney and 00 to an independent attorney assigned by the judge. I am in Texas.

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should i leave my husband?

admin — Wed, 25 May 2011 14:26:09 +0000

we have had a rough marriage. he has lost his job which caused us to lose our house and file bankruptcy and now we live with our two kids with his dad…… sigh…… now i lost my job of four years and the medical , dental, and life insurance that went with it. i got approved for unemployment….. and the kids are getting approved for insurance so…… why is treating me so bad. He doesn’t say it allowed it’s cause i lost my job…. but that’s when it started.

now he says…… i cant stand to look at you. i can’t stand coming home and hearing the kids scream. Please just leave. I’m through with you….. can u believe he is telling me that he wants a divorce?? I"m usually the one saying that to him. and now that i have no way to support myself with no job he wants to kick me out of his dad’s house….. which is cool…….i’ll go but he says i cant take the kids. and i say i’m not abandoning them.

so what do i do?

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Should I get a divorce or try to work it out?

admin — Tue, 24 May 2011 14:25:07 +0000

I have been married almost 3 years. I have 2 children under 2 yrs old. My husband has a pill problem and is a thief. He has stolen my money so many times I have had to file bankruptcy. I can’t have credit cards, a checking account, or anything. My husband always begs me to come back and I do because I love him. Earlier this year, he stole the last 0 I had and bought pills and wrecked my car. We couldn’t even pay the utilities on our house. (well, I couldn’t pay them, my husband doesn’t have a job.) So he moved in with his dad and I moved in with mine. Recently after we moved in with our dads, I found out I was pregnant. My husband got kicked out of his dads house for stealing and being on pills. He had nowhere to go so I let him stay with me to help me with our newborn daughter. Last week he was on pills again and stole some money from my dad and me so my dad kicked him out. Every time this happens he says he is done with the pills and it won’t happen again. I always take him back and this time I said he cannot stay with my dad and I. We have a house that I am still making payments on but since he doesn’t have a job I can’t pay for the house, utilities, and groceries by myself. Thats why I’m living with my dad so my kids will have water and heat. He is now telling me that he is completely done with pills. His mom is going to put him in therapy and he is going to apply for jobs and possibly go to the army. I do love him and that would be fine but I’m afraid I can’t trust him. My parents are begging me to get a divorce. But even if I do I know I will still see him alot because of the kids and that will be hard for me. When we got married I knew he already had 1 kid which was fine but since we got married he found out he has another and next month he is getting a DNA test for another, which that is really hard for me to deal with. I know he didn’t cheat on me. But if he does get a job, all his money will go to child support for these other kids? He has been put in jail more than once for back child support and is also being questioned for some residential break ins. I am afraid if I leave him I won’t find anyone else and if I did find someone else my husband would make it hell for me. I’m sure it sounds like a no brainer I wish I could turn off my feelings but I really do love this guy too much. I just wanted an outside opinion from someone that doesn’t know us. Thanks in advance
I do not have a drug problem, and when he is on drugs I do keep the kids away from him.

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why does my life suck, and what should I do?

admin — Sat, 21 May 2011 16:49:08 +0000

I have been pushed around and made fun of my entire life, I had no friends growing up, I was beat up constantly, and my parents were both drunks, so I got beaten at home too. My mother used to put out cigarettes on my head. It got that the school beatings were less then the home beatings so I did not want to go home. The kids in school got together and made an award for me as the most unpopular kid in school when I was in 6th grade. I graduated high school, and my luck never got better,during high school my parents got divorced and blamed the entire thing on me and said I was an accident, and they wish they had never had me. They both put on their item list that neither one of them wanted custody of me.Then I flunked out of college, couldn’t hold a decent job, I still had no friends. and that went on until I was 23 when I met my now wife, and for the first time in my life I was happy, she liked me for me, and she was good to me. A year and a half ago we got married, and she totally changed. She became very abusive and calls me an effen retard, and stupid a@@ all the time, and she hits me with things and smacks me calling me retarded. I had thought about divorce and then we found out that she was pregnant, and the first words out of her mouth were I hope that our kid is not a retard like you, so now I can’t divorce her. We also recently had to file bankruptcy, and I lost my car and my job, and up until recently have been unemployed for the last six months, and we got evicted from our apartment, and had to move back in with my dad. Let me tell you I am 26, and I still feel like a child, I get picked on from both of them, and my mother when I see her, I have no car to get away and no friends to hang out with, I am seriously considering suicide, but I don’t want to leave another child without a father, and I always swore I would try to be a better parent than mine were to me, but I wonder if I can be. I an not happy in my marriage and I would never cheat on my wife, but she doesen’t believe in sexual relations anymore, just to add fuel to the fire. I mean all my life I have never had someone that I could go hang out with who thought I was cool, and when someone tried to talk to me I tried so hard to get them to like me, that they all run away. I cry daily now, and just want to give up, I have no hobbies, I would like to learn how to ride a horse, and at 260lbs, everyplace I tried laughed at me and said I was too fat, I can’t fit in anywhere, and I am typing this as a last resort to see if anyone actually cares, but I don’t feel that I will get any responses

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