I work 40 hrs a week as support for a software company. I work remotely from home. I have been freelancing at night when everyone is asleep and on weekends – this is my second job, my attempt to pay off medical bills, and to move forward on quitting my current job I hate so much. Last week I told my husband I have a big job and I have a 2 week deadline. This job will pay for my son’s Hockey Season which is 0. I told him this several times before taking the job and he told me he was okay with it. One night I decided to work on the project right after dinner and as soon as I went upstairs he wanted to know what I was doing and demanded that I take his laptop and work downstairs. I was a bit put off and did it. Then he went to give my youngest son a bath and demanded that I stop what I was doing to watch my older son do his homework… First of all, my husband never gives my youngest son a bath on his own – I usually do it and rarely tends to my son’s homework. He started yelling at me saying that I need to spend more time with the family.. What??? I’m home all the time with the family.. He’s not!

Keep in mind that he works 50 – 60 hours weeks and sometimes more. When he does work more than usual, I never give him a hard time. I take care of everything at home.

This one time when I asked for his support on my big project – he failed me. I decided to quit this project because of my husband being impossible. I was so angry at him, I could not talk to him. The next day I woke up angry, he was telling me what to do and how to do it… He is usually like this and I just ignore it. I was so pissed, I was super sensitive to every word that was coming out of his mouth. I felt like I was in shackles and I have no rights as a human being. I know this is so exaggerated on my part.. That is my feeling after getting no support from him.

What brought me to the melt down is this. I have a paypal business account and credit card for my business needs. my husband knows this which is a big mistake telling him. That account allows me to send invoices to people so that they can pay me for services. I have been taking the profits and paying for things we need and paying for medical bills. I have gotten about 00 from freelance work so far. Well, my husband keeps on telling me we need to pay for hockey stuff and now My dog’s grooming and vet bills.. This is where I get frustrated.. I have to work to pay for this stuff. I don’t want to incur more debt. He also wants me to file for bankruptcy.. I don’t. That is the easy way out and I feel I can fix this.. He doesn’t agree with me and continues to friggin buy things like he has endless amounts of cash.

I really think he takes advantage of me. Everything we have bought, he had convinced me to put it on my credit card and promised he will pay it back. Every time I go to him on paying back my card, he comes up with excuses and yet he is able to buy shoes, clothes, gadgets, toys for kids, – lunches, etc… Do you see why I’m mad?

And just a couple of days ago I flipped on him because he told me he just bought some Vail Resort stock… I was pissed because when I was trading stocks a year ago and making a profit, he got involved and said this will be a good hobby for the both of us. I immediately disagreed and told him that I want to do this on my own. He has stocks and a retirement fund. I have nothing and would like to try and build a retirement fund and portfolio. He was offended and got mad at me. I gave in and decided to work with him. He told me to buy a stock that I did not agree with and insisted that if I do not buy this stock it would be a big mistake. Well I didn’t want to and we fought over it. I didn’t want to fight with him and bought the stupid stock. A week later it fell 10% and I pulled out. He wanted me to keep it and called it a long term stock… He was so wrong. The little money I did have went to paying for penrose hospital – they had a court order for us to pay for a bill. So I pulled all the money and gave it to them. See why I am mad… Why do I put up with this?

He is another funny thing he did. For a while he was recording Dave Ramsey show. This show has people calling in about their financial problems and he give advice. Well I did watch this show and loved it because if reinforce what I know is true and when I had asked him to watch it with me – he agreed but he thought it was comical and didn’t take the show seriously and stopped recording the show… I am crazy.
He pays for health insurance, car insurance, utility bills, and cable. I pay for mortgage, car, credit cards, daycare, and gas/groceries.

I don’t have anything left when these bills are paid.
Yes, I have talked to him about this and we are trying to work things out. I don’t give up that easily. Divorce is not in my radar. I feel so frustrated and wish I could figure this out. My husband tells me all the time that I need to learn how to relax.. He’s right there. And we balance each other because I am all about being responsible and he likes to have fun.. Well I love to have fun too. I was adventurous before kids and marraige. Now i’m home working all the time. Try to pay the bills.

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I personally own 4 properties. Each of these are in my name. I have a private loan set up from a hard money lender on each of these properties. one of them is my main residence. The others are rented out. I use the money from the renters to pay the lender. He is a nice guy, and will let the loan ride out as long as I need to. I’ve been working with him for years. I’ve borrowed on each of these homes about half of their value. But through the years, the prices/equity has been cut down, so now there is probably only about 10K profit on each house.

On top of these 4 houses, I have 3 homes that are currently in my name as well, but I am working on remodeling/reselling. My dilemma is complex. I have two other business partners. My dad, and my husband. We’ve never had problems working together, its just we’ve run into problems in the finance dept. Currently, we have a business account for the three of us. We only have enough money for our business to run for one more month. Currently, our bills run about 9K a month. We’re waiting for a house to sell, its valued at 80 but we’re trying to take ANYTHING that will keep us going…so maybe around 60/etc….I dont even know exactly what we’ll take for it, or if it’ll even sell b/c of the economy. We’re trying to pull a loan on it instead to keep things going. But the problem with that, is that we have to use the money we’re going to pull on a loan to remodel another property (we’ll call property #2). We already pulled an 80K loan on property #2 for 80K but its coming in two draws. We spent the first draw on business expenses to keep the business running, and as soon as we spend 20K on the house #2 (its a big time fixer in the napa, ca vacation community) we can get the second draw of 40K, of which, we will have to spend maybe 30K on the house.

All and all, this is the worst case scenario we’ve ever been in. We even have a small rinky dink house #3 tied into the loan of house #2 to protect the investors. House #3 is only worth about 20K….thats why we didnt mind backing it against the other one.

On top of worrying if we’re going to have enough money to survive financially, once we get the napa vacation house (#2) on the market, we dont even know if it will sell at a low/fair market price. We just want to get rid of the house and get rid of the loan and hope to keep business going with the bills.

Also where it gets weird, and concerning the bankruptcy talk….there is an attorney who I owe some money to. At first he was kind, we got along great, and he saw a lot of potential in myself, the business that I do. A few years ago I was needing money so he lent me 20K at 80% interest. I knew that where I placed the money would help me to continue working, and would be worth it in the long run. It was….its just, I havent paid him back yet, so he’s already made about 20K off of the loan, and im continuing to pay him 1,200 per month of interest. He tacked on an old attorney bill from his other firm, but at one point he said he discounted it, but now he’s charging me again. All and all, and please, without judgement of me or him, nothing has been written on paper, and I know there is that saying that a verbal contract is as good as the paper its written on. So all an all. He’s screwing me in several ways. He practically ‘but kindly’ demands that I send several leads to him, to where he’ll make 50-100 on residential properties that are sent his way by ME.

The positions for goes as follows:
My dad has been in charge of the finances and working with the attorney.
My husband has been doing the computer work and finding leads
I have the bank account in my name, go to court, and use MY name on EVERYTHING. Everything that we do between the three of us is open for all 3 of us to see on paper. There is no money laundering or anything strange between us. We are all best friends.

I am just REALLY REALLY freaking stressed. Mainly because I am so young, and worry about my future. If I were to file bankruptcy couldnt I put the houses in a trust or my sisters name and bankrupty off the attorney? I know its ridiculous but we dont even know how much we owe him. It could be 50K or it could be 100K.

If the business fails, what precautions can I take before hand??? I may only have a month or two before it hits the fan….I was thinking of opening a second bank account at another bank, it case we go broke with the one, and get into check systems, at least i’d have another account, b/c once you go into it you cant open another account. Im so scared. And not that I want to make this a focal point of my storyline, but my dad has a 400K life insurance policy. He said that if something ‘happened to him’ and he died, we would get it. Im worried about our business, my ‘name’ in general, losing my family, my future….im stressed and need advice. On ANYTHING. Im young and fragile righ

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I personally own 4 properties. Each of these are in my name. I have a private loan set up from a hard money lender on each of these properties. one of them is my main residence. The others are rented out. I use the money from the renters to pay the lender. He is a nice guy, and will let the loan ride out as long as I need to. I’ve been working with him for years. I’ve borrowed on each of these homes about half of their value. But through the years, the prices/equity has been cut down, so now there is probably only about 10K profit on each house.

On top of these 4 houses, I have 3 homes that are currently in my name as well, but I am working on remodeling/reselling. My dilemma is complex. I have two other business partners. My dad, and my husband. We’ve never had problems working together, its just we’ve run into problems in the finance dept. Currently, we have a business account for the three of us. We only have enough money for our business to run for one more month. Currently, our bills run about 9K a month. We’re waiting for a house to sell, its valued at 80 but we’re trying to take ANYTHING that will keep us going…so maybe around 60/etc….I dont even know exactly what we’ll take for it, or if it’ll even sell b/c of the economy. We’re trying to pull a loan on it instead to keep things going. But the problem with that, is that we have to use the money we’re going to pull on a loan to remodel another property (we’ll call property #2). We already pulled an 80K loan on property #2 for 80K but its coming in two draws. We spent the first draw on business expenses to keep the business running, and as soon as we spend 20K on the house #2 (its a big time fixer in the napa, ca vacation community) we can get the second draw of 40K, of which, we will have to spend maybe 30K on the house.

All and all, this is the worst case scenario we’ve ever been in. We even have a small rinky dink house #3 tied into the loan of house #2 to protect the investors. House #3 is only worth about 20K….thats why we didnt mind backing it against the other one.

On top of worrying if we’re going to have enough money to survive financially, once we get the napa vacation house (#2) on the market, we dont even know if it will sell at a low/fair market price. We just want to get rid of the house and get rid of the loan and hope to keep business going with the bills.

Also where it gets weird, and concerning the bankruptcy talk….there is an attorney who I owe some money to. At first he was kind, we got along great, and he saw a lot of potential in myself, the business that I do. A few years ago I was needing money so he lent me 20K at 80% interest. I knew that where I placed the money would help me to continue working, and would be worth it in the long run. It was….its just, I havent paid him back yet, so he’s already made about 20K off of the loan, and im continuing to pay him 1,200 per month of interest. He tacked on an old attorney bill from his other firm, but at one point he said he discounted it, but now he’s charging me again. All and all, and please, without judgement of me or him, nothing has been written on paper, and I know there is that saying that a verbal contract is as good as the paper its written on. So all an all. He’s screwing me in several ways. He practically ‘but kindly’ demands that I send several leads to him, to where he’ll make 50-100 on residential properties that are sent his way by ME.

The positions for goes as follows:
My dad has been in charge of the finances and working with the attorney.
My husband has been doing the computer work and finding leads
I have the bank account in my name, go to court, and use MY name on EVERYTHING. Everything that we do between the three of us is open for all 3 of us to see on paper. There is no money laundering or anything strange between us. We are all best friends.

I am just REALLY REALLY freaking stressed. Mainly because I am so young, and worry about my future. If I were to file bankruptcy couldnt I put the houses in a trust or my sisters name and bankrupty off the attorney? I know its ridiculous but we dont even know how much we owe him. It could be 50K or it could be 100K.

If the business fails, what precautions can I take before hand??? I may only have a month or two before it hits the fan….I was thinking of opening a second bank account at another bank, it case we go broke with the one, and get into check systems, at least i’d have another account, b/c once you go into it you cant open another account. Im so scared. And not that I want to make this a focal point of my storyline, but my dad has a 400K life insurance policy. He said that if something ‘happened to him’ and he died, we would get it. Im worried about our business, my ‘name’ in general, losing my family, my future….im stressed and need advice. On ANYTHING. Im young and fragile righ

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I personally own 4 properties. Each of these are in my name. I have a private loan set up from a hard money lender on each of these properties. one of them is my main residence. The others are rented out. I use the money from the renters to pay the lender. He is a nice guy, and will let the loan ride out as long as I need to. I’ve been working with him for years. I’ve borrowed on each of these homes about half of their value. But through the years, the prices/equity has been cut down, so now there is probably only about 10K profit on each house.

On top of these 4 houses, I have 3 homes that are currently in my name as well, but I am working on remodeling/reselling. My dilemma is complex. I have two other business partners. My dad, and my husband. We’ve never had problems working together, its just we’ve run into problems in the finance dept. Currently, we have a business account for the three of us. We only have enough money for our business to run for one more month. Currently, our bills run about 9K a month. We’re waiting for a house to sell, its valued at 80 but we’re trying to take ANYTHING that will keep us going…so maybe around 60/etc….I dont even know exactly what we’ll take for it, or if it’ll even sell b/c of the economy. We’re trying to pull a loan on it instead to keep things going. But the problem with that, is that we have to use the money we’re going to pull on a loan to remodel another property (we’ll call property #2). We already pulled an 80K loan on property #2 for 80K but its coming in two draws. We spent the first draw on business expenses to keep the business running, and as soon as we spend 20K on the house #2 (its a big time fixer in the napa, ca vacation community) we can get the second draw of 40K, of which, we will have to spend maybe 30K on the house.

All and all, this is the worst case scenario we’ve ever been in. We even have a small rinky dink house #3 tied into the loan of house #2 to protect the investors. House #3 is only worth about 20K….thats why we didnt mind backing it against the other one.

On top of worrying if we’re going to have enough money to survive financially, once we get the napa vacation house (#2) on the market, we dont even know if it will sell at a low/fair market price. We just want to get rid of the house and get rid of the loan and hope to keep business going with the bills.

Also where it gets weird, and concerning the bankruptcy talk….there is an attorney who I owe some money to. At first he was kind, we got along great, and he saw a lot of potential in myself, the business that I do. A few years ago I was needing money so he lent me 20K at 80% interest. I knew that where I placed the money would help me to continue working, and would be worth it in the long run. It was….its just, I havent paid him back yet, so he’s already made about 20K off of the loan, and im continuing to pay him 1,200 per month of interest. He tacked on an old attorney bill from his other firm, but at one point he said he discounted it, but now he’s charging me again. All and all, and please, without judgement of me or him, nothing has been written on paper, and I know there is that saying that a verbal contract is as good as the paper its written on. So all an all. He’s screwing me in several ways. He practically ‘but kindly’ demands that I send several leads to him, to where he’ll make 50-100 on residential properties that are sent his way by ME.

The positions for goes as follows:
My dad has been in charge of the finances and working with the attorney.
My husband has been doing the computer work and finding leads
I have the bank account in my name, go to court, and use MY name on EVERYTHING. Everything that we do between the three of us is open for all 3 of us to see on paper. There is no money laundering or anything strange between us. We are all best friends.

I am just REALLY REALLY freaking stressed. Mainly because I am so young, and worry about my future. If I were to file bankruptcy couldnt I put the houses in a trust or my sisters name and bankrupty off the attorney? I know its ridiculous but we dont even know how much we owe him. It could be 50K or it could be 100K.

If the business fails, what precautions can I take before hand??? I may only have a month or two before it hits the fan….I was thinking of opening a second bank account at another bank, it case we go broke with the one, and get into check systems, at least i’d have another account, b/c once you go into it you cant open another account. Im so scared. And not that I want to make this a focal point of my storyline, but my dad has a 400K life insurance policy. He said that if something ‘happened to him’ and he died, we would get it. Im worried about our business, my ‘name’ in general, losing my family, my future….im stressed and need advice. On ANYTHING. Im young and fragile righ

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I personally own 4 properties. Each of these are in my name. I have a private loan set up from a hard money lender on each of these properties. one of them is my main residence. The others are rented out. I use the money from the renters to pay the lender. He is a nice guy, and will let the loan ride out as long as I need to. I’ve been working with him for years. I’ve borrowed on each of these homes about half of their value. But through the years, the prices/equity has been cut down, so now there is probably only about 10K profit on each house.

On top of these 4 houses, I have 3 homes that are currently in my name as well, but I am working on remodeling/reselling. My dilemma is complex. I have two other business partners. My dad, and my husband. We’ve never had problems working together, its just we’ve run into problems in the finance dept. Currently, we have a business account for the three of us. We only have enough money for our business to run for one more month. Currently, our bills run about 9K a month. We’re waiting for a house to sell, its valued at 80 but we’re trying to take ANYTHING that will keep us going…so maybe around 60/etc….I dont even know exactly what we’ll take for it, or if it’ll even sell b/c of the economy. We’re trying to pull a loan on it instead to keep things going. But the problem with that, is that we have to use the money we’re going to pull on a loan to remodel another property (we’ll call property #2). We already pulled an 80K loan on property #2 for 80K but its coming in two draws. We spent the first draw on business expenses to keep the business running, and as soon as we spend 20K on the house #2 (its a big time fixer in the napa, ca vacation community) we can get the second draw of 40K, of which, we will have to spend maybe 30K on the house.

All and all, this is the worst case scenario we’ve ever been in. We even have a small rinky dink house #3 tied into the loan of house #2 to protect the investors. House #3 is only worth about 20K….thats why we didnt mind backing it against the other one.

On top of worrying if we’re going to have enough money to survive financially, once we get the napa vacation house (#2) on the market, we dont even know if it will sell at a low/fair market price. We just want to get rid of the house and get rid of the loan and hope to keep business going with the bills.

Also where it gets weird, and concerning the bankruptcy talk….there is an attorney who I owe some money to. At first he was kind, we got along great, and he saw a lot of potential in myself, the business that I do. A few years ago I was needing money so he lent me 20K at 80% interest. I knew that where I placed the money would help me to continue working, and would be worth it in the long run. It was….its just, I havent paid him back yet, so he’s already made about 20K off of the loan, and im continuing to pay him 1,200 per month of interest. He tacked on an old attorney bill from his other firm, but at one point he said he discounted it, but now he’s charging me again. All and all, and please, without judgement of me or him, nothing has been written on paper, and I know there is that saying that a verbal contract is as good as the paper its written on. So all an all. He’s screwing me in several ways. He practically ‘but kindly’ demands that I send several leads to him, to where he’ll make 50-100 on residential properties that are sent his way by ME.

The positions for goes as follows:
My dad has been in charge of the finances and working with the attorney.
My husband has been doing the computer work and finding leads
I have the bank account in my name, go to court, and use MY name on EVERYTHING. Everything that we do between the three of us is open for all 3 of us to see on paper. There is no money laundering or anything strange between us. We are all best friends.

I am just REALLY REALLY freaking stressed. Mainly because I am so young, and worry about my future. If I were to file bankruptcy couldnt I put the houses in a trust or my sisters name and bankrupty off the attorney? I know its ridiculous but we dont even know how much we owe him. It could be 50K or it could be 100K.

If the business fails, what precautions can I take before hand??? I may only have a month or two before it hits the fan….I was thinking of opening a second bank account at another bank, it case we go broke with the one, and get into check systems, at least i’d have another account, b/c once you go into it you cant open another account. Im so scared. And not that I want to make this a focal point of my storyline, but my dad has a 400K life insurance policy. He said that if something ‘happened to him’ and he died, we would get it. Im worried about our business, my ‘name’ in general, losing my family, my future….im stressed and need advice. On ANYTHING. Im young and fragile righ

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I am filing Chapter 7. My personal account does not show much activity. My business account shows sales of roughly 20,000 monthly however when I pay off the company that finances my inventory ( I do not own my inventory) It shows a profit of around 00 per month. Even though my profit is below the median income, will the large deposits arouse suspision on the part of the court. The large deposits are followed by large payments to that company that owns my inventory.

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I am filing Chapter 7. My personal account does not show much activity. My business account shows sales of roughly 20,000 monthly however when I pay off the company that finances my inventory ( I do not own my inventory) It shows a profit of around 00 per month. Even though my profit is below the median income, will the large deposits arouse suspision on the part of the court. The large deposits are followed by large payments to that company that owns my inventory.

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