Should I stay with a 43 year old, out of work man living with his parents?
Okay, I met a 43 year old divorced father of two and we’ve been sort of seeing each other for the past 3 months. He says he has really fallen for me, so much in fact that he has told me he loves me. The thing is, he moved back in with his parents because of the divorce, but that was over a year ago. He used to have his own business, but the business went bankrupt and he has not worked in awhile (definitely not since I’ve met him). I just am starting to wonder if he even has any motivation to do anything other than trying to hang out with me and talk to me! We hardly see each other because of the living situation and when we do hang out all he talks about is how he misses me, how he likes (and now loves) me so much, etc… I just don’t know if I can be with a man who doesn’t work, lives with his parents and isn’t doing anything about it! He says he’s getting his own place in a couple of weeks, but I am struggling to believe this is true considering he still isn’t working and doesn’t have any savings! I think he is a genuinely good person, but I don’t know if that’s enough. My question is this…is there hope for him? Should I stick it out and see if things change? To me it just seems bad because he has been living this way for so long, it’s like he wants to move, but financially can’t get his stuff together! For being 43, I just expect more I suppose….is this wrong of me? Or, should I hit the road and end this now?? Please, any advice will do!!
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***I am 34 years old (no kids, if that matters) and do have a full time job as well as go to school.
I completely understand Steven’s point and I do give the guy credit for the ambition to try and do something on his own, but in all reality his own business was just himself and a couple of guys he could call on to come help on bigger projects. I’m not trying to downplay it, that’s just the reality. I still admire the ambition, I completely understand the horrible economic situation that’s been going on and I know it is really tough on American’s, whether you have a job or not….I don’t want to come off as not being totally sympathetic to that.